https://stream.echo6.co/videos/watch/a0760096-51d5-40d8-8f88-f508ab87aacf In this raw, no-BS conversation, PFC Podcast host Dennis sits down with Justin Ball — licensed clinical social worker, former Green Beret, and one of the most insightful voices on military mental health — to unpack the often-ignored second war. Justin brings both battlefield experience and clinical expertise, while Dennis shares unfiltered war stories and hard-earned lessons. They draw on Homer’s Odyssey, Achilles in Vietnam, modern family systems theory, emotion-focused therapy (EFT), anthropology of tribal hunters returning to the village, and brutally honest spouse perspectives (shoutout to Angela Ball for the coffee-table truth bombs). This isn’t another “do these 5 things and you’ll be fine” checklist. It’s a real talk about why coming home is hard — for the service member, the spouse, the kids, and the whole damn family system — and how to navigate it with eyes wide open. Key Takeaways The transition home starts before you leave the sandbox — unrealistic expectations (“If I can just make it home…”) set most people up for failure., Anger is often the only “socially acceptable” emotion for warriors; underneath it usually lies fear, sadness, shame, or grief over missed time/missed life., Military and home are competing tribes with conflicting values, boundaries, and shame triggers — yelling works at work, but it nukes the dinner table., Spouses aren’t “just holding it down” — they’ve built an entire functioning system. Coming home = deliberate, careful re-entry, not storming the castle., Chronic leaving-and-returning (TDYs, schools, exercises) is as damaging as combat deployments — families don’t care if it’s “just training”; absence is absence., Healthy reintegration means we not me — appreciation, lowered expectations, co-regulation in traffic rage moments, and honest communication about what’s really happening emotionally., There is no smooth road. The healthiest couples/families acknowledge it’s bumpy, forgive missteps quickly, and keep talking., Whether you’re an OGA guy with 15 TDYs, an infantryman coming off your first rotation, a spouse reading this description in tears, or a leader wondering why your guys are angry all the time — this episode is for you. Chapters 00:26 – Justin returns; setting the stage for “coming home”, 03:16 – Evolution of post-deployment screening — what’s better now vs. then, 09:59 – Acute vs. chronic homecoming — one big event vs. a lifestyle of constant comings & goings, 13:18 – The spouse perspective (Angela drops truth bombs over coffee), 19:46 – Don’t discount non-combat deployments or training risks — it’s all cumulative family stress, 22:38 – Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) basics — emotions are older than words, 27:05 – Anthropology: hunters leaving the tribe, returning changed, and the danger of re-meeting, 36:55 – Shame culture in the military vs. home — competing tribal expectations create anger & failure loops, 42:25 – Anger as secondary emotion — fear, sadness, shame underneath, 45:03 – Mismatched expectations on both sides (warrior welcome vs. “don’t touch my schedule”), 50:31 – Operator syndrome vs. spouse high-stress reality — high stress is high stress, 54:29 – Ego check: coming home with an inflated “war hero” self vs. careful re-entry, 59:23 – The minivan road-rage story — tribal rules don’t switch off overnight, 01:05:35 – Building a culture of appreciation (Gottman style) without knife-handing it, 01:09:43 – Listening without fixing — emotional acknowledgment first, For more content, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.prolongedfieldcare.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Consider supporting us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon.com/ProlongedFieldCareCollective⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lobocoffeeco.com/product-page/prolonged-field-care Wed, 15 Apr 2026 13:41:01 GMT https://validator.w3.org/feed/docs/rss2.html PeerTube - https://stream.echo6.co https://stream.echo6.co/client/assets/images/icons/icon-512x512.png https://stream.echo6.co/videos/watch/a0760096-51d5-40d8-8f88-f508ab87aacf All rights reserved, unless otherwise specified in the terms specified at https://stream.echo6.co/about and potential licenses granted by each content's rightholder.